“This is another long -standing misconception,” the French psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc is sure. – It is very convenient for us, as it easily explains problems with achieving sexual harmony, male infidelity and female fatigue. But scientifically this myth is not confirmed “.
There are several reasons for such a misconception. The first is physiological. Sexual attraction equally strongly in both sexes, but male erection and ejaculation are obvious, and in women all processes occur inside the body.
The second reason is cultural-historical. For centuries, female sexual desire seemed a threat to the institution of marriage. It seemed that too passionate woman would not be satisfied with one man, and this is fraught with the appearance of illegitimate children. That is why many preferred to believe that female desire is primarily connected with the need for motherhood, and the modern woman continues to burst between the roles of mother and mistress.
The third reason is hormonal
. A month after a month, the body of a woman of childbearing age produces eggs, the purpose of which is to be fertilized. During ovulation, she feels the most ready for sex. But to say that the rhythm of desire is subordinate to the hormonal rhythm – means reducing sexuality to the instinct of propagation. In this case, the very concept of “sexuality” would be related only to women of childbearing age and only on certain days of the month!
However, love relationships are a whole universe in which men and women strive to meet, like each other, give pleasure and open up to a partner. The instinct of reproduction is possibly really the basis for excitement, but in any case it is only a starting point.
The fourth reason is psychological. In childhood, we discover with curiosity and distrust, we discover a sexual desire, which can be interpreted as aggressive and therefore condemned. If men, whose aggressiveness society belongs to be patient, is not worried about this, then it is difficult for women to accept it. Affirming that their sexual desire is weaker than that of a partner, women sincerely believe that they only obey male will. And thus avoid meeting with the apparent danger of their own desire.